Thinking Positively to Improve ROL (Return on Life)
There’s real power in learning to embrace positive thinking. In October I suffered a lateral malleolus fracture. (I fractured my fibula, when I twisted my ankle.) I spent six weeks in a boot & then graduated to a lace-up brace, requiring me to decide which pair of shoes to ruin over the next six weeks. The injury really sucked the joy out of me. I allowed it to do so, as if I wasn’t in control of how I viewed the situation and the limitations that it put on my mobility. Next time I’ll do better. Be better.
A growing body of research suggests that positivity can boost mental well-being, improve physical health, and help us succeed with career and life goals. A team at Johns Hopkins University even found that people with a positive outlook were one-third less likely to suffer a heart attack or other cardiovascular problems.
Try to incorporate these three mind hacks into your daily wellness routine to improve your perspective and your Return on Life.
1. Reframe.
When you’re stuck in the middle of a frustrating situation, you probably don’t want to hear about doors closing, windows opening, or turning lemons into lemonade. (I know that I don’t!) But approaching challenges from a slightly more positive perspective can help you appreciate the potential of every moment. Rather than being scared or intimidated by a new experience, focus on what you can learn even if you fail. As tired as new parents may be when that baby cries at 2am, those extra chances for bonding are precious and will fly by if you don’t seize them. There’s nothing you can do about the traffic jam that’s making you late for a big meeting. But instead of stewing at other drivers, you could run through your presentation in your head a few extra times. You’ll still be late, but you might be better prepared; you might even come up with a few improvements that impress the rest of your team and transform the project at hand.
2. Build resiliency.
Positivity takes practice if you’re someone who has trouble looking on the bright side. Acknowledging that you have to work on being more positive is an essential first step. From there, you can start to become more aware of the thought patterns and physical ticks that manifest when you’re thinking too negatively. Take stock of your thoughts during the day and assign them a value: positive, negative, and neutral. If you slip into negative, try to shift gears and focus on what you can control in a positive way. Embrace good-natured humor wherever and whenever you can, even if that means laughing at yourself. And finally, try to be a little more kind to yourself. That voice in the back of your head that’s constantly criticizing and cataloging your faults can be hard to silence if you let it run wild. Unclench your jaw, loosen your shoulders, and give yourself the pat on the back you deserve as you work through your daily to-do list. Some researchers have even found that just the physical act of smiling — even if you’re not happy — can lower your blood pressure, boost your immune system, and improve your mood.
3. Maintain positive relationships.
Another positive thing about smiling: it’s contagious, especially if you make a habit of surrounding yourself with other positive people who bring out your best. If your coworkers spend too much of their days grumbling, change your routine and create some distance. Get those doom-and-gloomers out of your social media feeds – even if you’re related to a few of them.
Enlist a spouse, friend, or family member to hold you accountable to a new exercise routine or the online course you need to complete to make a major job transition. Mix mood-enhancing physical activity into your social life with team sports, long walks, cycling, or game nights. Get into the habit of sending birthday cards or calling up friends and relatives more often just to say hi. (They may even answer their phone!) Share positivity with the people you care about and you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel. Do Better. Be Better.
If you’re feeling down about your finances, make an appointment to visit our office and work through our Wheel of Life planning tool. We can help you identify areas where a little more positivity and some expert planning can make a big difference.
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~portions adapted from ROL Advisor~
